Anonymous: You remind me a lot of myself. Old soul, young body and so artistic and kind :) have you ever considered yourself a starseed? Sometimes I feel like an alien :)

wow, it really says something that you were able to notice those things about me. :) i had never heard of starseeds until you mentioned it, i looked into it. but i have no idea lol. i sometimes consider myself more of a lightworker. i’m sure the answer will present itself one day soon.

"If you love yourself, you love others. If you hate yourself, you hate others. Because in relationship with others … the other is nothing but a mirror."
 
"Loving someone is not owning someone. It is a decision where two individual human beings have decided to share this concept of fully accepting each other as they are together. The only thing that is yours is the other half of the relationship commitment, and if you cannot live up to that, then it is time to go."
"I hope you have the courage to pursue someone who is worth pursuing, and not someone who is convenient. Convenience is impatience disguised as your desires, you are worth more than what time has told you, you are worthy of finding someone who will wait for you; don’t settle for what is easy, settle for what is good."
"Create a life that feels good on the inside, not one that just looks good on the outside."
"If you’re struggling, you deserve to make self-care a priority. Whether that means lying in bed all day, eating comfort food, putting off homework, crying, sleeping, rescheduling plans, finding an escape through a good book, watching your favorite tv show, or doing nothing at all — give yourself permission to put your healing first. Quiet the voice telling you to do more and be more, and today, whatever you do, let it be enough. Feel your feelings, breathe, and be gentle with yourself. Acknowledge that you’re doing the best you can to cope and survive. And trust that during this time of struggle, it’s enough."
Anonymous: i have been watching you grow through social networking ever since you first dyed your hair blue. i see pieces of myself in you and i just want to let you know that you are great. i am black myself, and since you never really talk about your family, what do they think about you being spiritual, not Christian?

cool, thank you. that means a lot to me!

and my family doesn’t play a role in my life. they are really distant. i live by a don’t ask, don’t tell policy. so unless someone asks me about my beliefs, i won’t tell them. my spiritual beliefs are sacred to me so i am careful with who i share them with.

Anonymous: Do you believe in Jesus Christ?

yeah, we’re actually very close.

Anonymous: Are you a nigerian?

no, i’m creole & cherokee. but i love nigerians.

Anonymous: Can you make a FAQ, please?

yes, i am working on the questions now. it should be there tonight when i get home. i’ll make a post about it.

Anonymous: Why don't you answer questions about haircare?

most of the hair care questions i’ve answered before. i pretty much get the same questions over and over even after i answered it, so it’s quite frustrating. 

but i’ll try to answer some now.

"Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, you must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life."
Anonymous: You are very beautiful I'm sure you get it a lot. Do you ever feel like you get caught up in vanity?

not at all. beauty is temporary. i’m more interested in making sure who i am inside is much more beautiful than my outside could ever be.